A Little Emotional Support During This Time of Stress This is a time of incredible stress, uncertainty and change across the world. Unlike many stressful experiences, we don’t know when the impact of the Covid-19 will ease so that life can return to something closer to normal. We just know that our lives have been…
Do You Know What You Want? I recently came across an incredible interview with Oprah Winfrey, a huge advocate for doing our deep personal work. This part stands out for me the most: “Most people don’t know where they want to go. A lot of people are being driven by what they think they should…
Anger: Our Most Misunderstood Emotion In my last post I described how devastating chronic misattunement is to a growing child. I described how the child learns to live with a level of emotional deprivation that persists into adulthood and then as adults they help everyone else and put themselves last. It’s like encasing our…
What? I Have Needs? “I had a good childhood. There was always food on the table and a roof over my head. So why do I feel stuck all of the time?” Do you wonder why you often feel unsatisfied in your relationships or why your professional life goes nowhere in spite of lots of…
Just Can’t Say No “So what do you think? Are you interested in working with me?” “Yes, I am and I wonder what your rates are.” “Well, I have a standard rate and then if you buy a package, you save 15% off my standard rate. How does that sound to you?” “Well, I really…
Here’s Why It’s So Hard To Change Mindset In our professional lives we constantly talk about mindset. Positive mindset, worth mindset, goal-oriented mindset, focused mindset. This list is long. We all have mantras, affirmations, activities and favorite quotations we use to shift our state of mind. Of course, a positive mindset is a good thing. …
ACEs as Life & Death We tend to think about life as the basic functioning of our body. Am I breathing? Is my heart beating? Can I see and hear? But there’s another measure to life. Am I fully alive? Am I living my dream? Am I following my heart? Not my physical heart. My emotional…
I Feel Like A Fraud – What Is Imposter Syndrome Really? “I so don’t belong on this team!” I think to myself swearing under my breath as I sit in a meeting with my colleagues analyzing a problem we are having. One of my colleagues has just described a technical concept in such beautiful…
The Electrical Department I walk through the hardware store innocently enough gathering stuff for the latest round of fix-it projects on my new home. In the background I’m grappling with life direction yet again, this latest round of doubt in my own usefulness spurred by an external catalyst that came very suddenly out of…
Just Let It Go – Yeah, Right Please forgive the snarky title. I want to address something pervasive that I see in the business and personal growth community and I have strong feelings about it. I was on Facebook the other day reading a piece by yet another business leader telling me to just…